I personally cringe at the mention of Valentine’s day and the visions of red in every store. I tried to celebrate it once and it was such a half hearted effort that I swore I wouldn’t do it again. I feel like my mental health takes a bit of a dip on this day so I thought I’d share some tips on how to preserve your mental health on Valentine’s day.
Whatever your situation is trust me someone has it worse. Try being in your 40s, unmarried and childless on Valentine’s with all those ‘I feel so sorry for you’ looks. As if your expiration date has been reached and you need to be pushed to the back of the shelf hidden out of sight.
I feel like the demand on women to be married and having children is a little outdated and a tad patriarchal. We all make our choices in life and should be allowed a non-judgmental space to be unconventional.
For those of us who are a little jaded on Valentine’s here’s a few tips to preserve your mental health.
1. Pamper Yourself
Just because you’re single or in a relationship it doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate the most important person in your life. YOU! Pamper yourself and do things that make you happy. Cook your favourite meal, have a long bubble bath, get a pedicure or have a marathon netflix fix.
2. Celebrate All Your Relationships
Take a break from all the lovey-dovey stuff on social media and celebrate new and old friendships in your life. Reach out to friends, organise a zoom party or simply chill with your family.
3. Gifts Do Not Equal Love
In fact they are not necessary. Expensive gifts may not suit you or your partner’s budget at this time. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Remember that your love does not equate to money.
4. Take A Break From Social Media
Social media can take a toll on your mental health. Most of what you are seeing is highly curated and not a real representation of what’s happening in your friends or families lives. Save yourself from the mindless scrolling and take some time in nature.
Talk to a trusted friend or get together to watch a comedy. Laughter really is the best medicine. If you have no-one to reach out to write all your thoughts and feelings down in a diary. Dump all your thoughts out and you’ll feel so much better.
Whatever you decide to do be safe and take good care of yourself.
Let me leave you with this quote that I love: “loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself” (Rupi Kaur)
Love to you and yours,